Honeymoons: What’s Trending

According to Wikipedia the history of honeymoons is:The period when newlywed couples take a break to share some private and intimate moments that helps establish love in their relationship. This privacy in turn is believed to ease the comfort zone towards a physical relationship, which is one of the primary means of bonding during the initial days of marriage. The earliest term for this in English was hony moone, which was recorded as early as 1546.

Honeymoon traditions have surely evolved since 1546.  Honeymoons are still that time to share intimate moments to build the foundation of a couple’s relationship yet there are a few new trending things happening in the world of honeymoons.

Here are the top 3 Trends in Honeymoons:
1.     Unplugged


No cell phones, no laptops, no tablets.  Couples are allowing themselves to be in the present moment with each other while spending time on their honeymoon.  Enjoying each other’s company as well as be completely aware of their surroundings brings relationships to another level.  By having real conversations with each other, meeting new people, reading real books while relaxing at the beach or by the pool the reality of the real world seems to fade away.  You become more relaxed, you feel a freedom that you may have not felt in a long time as an individual and as a person.  This freedom allows you to grow as a person and a couple by being able to allow thoughts and feelings to surfaces with that little ding constantly going off with some sort of notification to distract you.
2.     The More The Merrier


Invite a few other couple friends.  This is happening more often especially with older couples that may already live together, on second marriage or with couples that are doing group destination weddings.  They are inviting 2-4 couple friends along for the trip.   It is a celebration, why not celebrate with some close friends.  Keeping in mind to still allow for alone time during the honeymoon.  This is great for each couple.  Spend the day playing together and dine separately at night or vice versa.  This gives you the best of both worlds, a trip together as the new Mr. and Mrs. For the romance and having friends along to have fun with!
3.     Professional Photo Sessions


Yes, you have taken engagement photos, bridal portraits and how many at the wedding?  The honeymoon is just as important as all of those listed so it is very important to preserve these memories as well.  The selfie stick will not hold a candle to having a real professional photographer do a photo session with you on the honeymoon.  Most resorts in the Caribbean and Mexico have photographers on site that will be more than happy to schedule sunset sessions with you, some even complimentary (you pay for the images you purchase).  Other resorts will have professional photographer referrals at their concierge desk.

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The Wedding VS The Marriage

The Marriage vs The Wedding

 

There is something about seeing a beautiful girl in a wedding dress. The vision is even more mesmerizing to a young girl. Young girls dream from early ages of the day that she will meet her prince charming, walk down the aisle in a vision of white. She has the wedding planned by the time she is 13. Every wedding she goes to she watches the bride. She pays attention to the dress, the veil, the hair, the make-up, the way she laughs, the way she dances with the groom. It seems to be a fairytale come true.

 

The moment the ring is on the finger the real planning starts. The bride puts in endless hours of shopping, attending bridal shows, planning, discussing, researching, interviewing , cake sampling, phone calls, pintresting (is that a word?), Facebooking (another new word for urban dictionary). Some young ladies even start a dieting and working out just so everything will be just perfect for the wedding and the reception after. So hours upon hours, day after day, month after month the time is filled with the planning of the wedding. The day arrives, anticipation has built up, energy is building to that moment. The moment when she walks down the aisle and he sees her. They say “I do”.   They kiss. The celebration starts with family and friends for a couple of hours after. Then the wedding is over.

    

Now what? What happens? According to Bride magazine most engagements and the planning of the wedding last for 18 months. That is a considerable amount of time spent in planning a wedding. What happens AFTER the wedding and the reception is over? What is normal for you and your new husband? You will no longer have to talk about what you should get as a gift for the groomsmen, what will say for your vows, what color with the theme be. Now what?

Will you have a wedding planning hangover? What will you do during the time you spent planning the wedding now that it is all over with?

Remember this is also a time to focus on each other and the upcoming marriage, not the upcoming wedding. The wedding is one day. The marriage is forever, right?

Enjoy the engagement. Here are a 3 tips to help focus on the marriage vs the wedding.

1-     No W word! At least 1 night a week there should be no talk of the wedding. Only speak to each other about the future together. Share your hopes, dreams and visions that you have as a couple.

2-     Keep a gratitude journal.   It can be short and sweet. Daily or weekly. Share daily or weekly what you are most thankful for in each other. Invest in a really nice journal book for each other.  Make a promise to each other to keep it up to date.  Keep the journals separate and private. Share on the night of your wedding or the night you return from your honeymoon.

3-     Fun. This is something that can get lost in all of the planning. The planning can turn into a job and sometimes jobs are not fun. Be sure and have fun with each other. Enjoy this engagement time, savor it, splendor in it, be present and enjoy every moment that you have with each other. Do not think of things you are doing during the engagement as a task. This is a journey and journeys are meant to be fun.

Enjoy the engagement … its about the Marriage not the Wedding!