Are you engaged?
I do not mean did you just get a diamond ring given to you by your significant other while they were down on one knee. I mean are you really engaged with the person that you love?
When couples first get engaged there is such an exhilarating and emotional state of the relationship. There are butterflies of excitement, there are new conversations, new thoughts and new feelings that all come up once a couple becomes engaged to be married. You spend time together in a different way. You know you are going to be spending the rest of your life with this person. You get closer, ask deeper questions, find out even more about each other, you engage with each other on a more personal level.
What level of engagement are you at with your fiancé? Are you at a higher level of presence in your relationship like when you first got engaged? Will you continue to stay at this higher level of engagement during your time together?
A higher level of engagement is when you are focusing on your fiancé and more giving of yourself to your fiancé. A higher level of engagement is when you are immersed in your relationship and the planning of your marriage. You are mindful and fully aware that your relationship is a priority.
You never become “disengaged” or Unengaged (unless you break up) as a couple. The engagement lasts if the two of you are together as a couple, forever. Yes, you move on to becoming married, but you stay engaged as a couple. It is your choice as to which level of engagement your relationship will be. It is your choice each day in your relationship. Yes, the level will fluctuate over the years and during time. The more aware and engaged you are as a couple the greater your bond will be.
If you are newly engaged, are you focusing on the building of your relationship just as much as the planning of the wedding?
How engaged are you or will you be when your 1 year,5 years, or 10 year to 60-year anniversary comes around? Will you still be engaged at the level of love, excitement, joy that you are the day the ring is placed on your finger? Will it be more or will it be less? Will you still have the butterflies? Butterflies or the excitement for your relationship and for the other person will stay and will strengthen over time if you stay engaged at this higher level on a regular basis with each other.
Be engaging in the moments you spend together. Engage in meaningful conversations with each other. Engage in the things that you want meaning from in your relationship. Engage with intent, energy, excitement and enthusiasm. Be fully engaged with your spouse and they will more than likely reciprocate. We all get busy in our day-to-day routines. We lose the zest of our relationships by getting caught up in ourselves, our business, our friends, our families and our children. Put the cell phone and the tablets way! Take date nights as often as you can. Take a romantic trip together at least once a year. Dance in the kitchen together while dinner is cooking. Kiss each other as often as possible. Hold hands. Smile at each other. Stay playful.
Stay engaged to keep your relationship going at a high level and to stay engaged forever.
Contact Shannon, the romance travel expert at Paradise Vacation Escapes to plan a honeymoon or trip for you and your loved one so that you can stay engaged with each other. Shannon’s email is Shannon@paradisevacationescapes.com, phone is 225-303-2240.