7 Secrets To A Sizzlin Honeymoon

7 Secrets To A Sizzlin Honeymoon

7 SECRETS

  1. Do Not leave the very next day after your wedding.

This is for those of you that are planning a honeymoon.  Most couples are so excited to go they want to leave the very next day on the first flight out.  This is usually a 6am flight.  This means you have to be at the airport for 4am.  This means waking up around 3am.  You get the picture …. You have a late night and then a very very early morning. I know how excited couples are to go as soon as possible but traveling can be exhausting.  You do not want to arrive at your paradise completely drained.  And if there are unexpected delays the day gets even longer and you get even more tired and cranky.   So relax.  Spend the first night at a hotel in a nearby city.  Sleep in … order room service and leave the following day.  You’ll be rested and in a much better mood to travel.  You’ll arrive at your destination refreshed and ready for any and all honeymoon festivities.

 

  1. Stay focused on the marriage and not the wedding.

The moment the ring is on the finger the real planning starts.  The bride puts in endless hours of shopping, attending bridal shows, planning, discussing, researching, interviewing, cake sampling, phone calls, pintresting (is that a word?), Facebooking (another new word for the urban dictionary).  Some young ladies even start a dieting and working out just so everything will be just perfect for the wedding and the reception after.  So hours upon hours, day after day, month after month the time is filled with the planning of the wedding.  The day arrives, anticipation has built up, energy is building to that moment.  The moment when she walks down the aisle and he sees her.  They say “I do”.   They kiss.  The celebration starts with family and friends for a couple of hours after.  Then the wedding is over.

According to Bride magazine, most engagements and the planning of the wedding last for 18 months.  That is a considerable amount of time spent in planning a wedding.  Remember this is also a time to focus on each other and the upcoming marriage, not the upcoming wedding.  The wedding is one day.  The marriage is forever, right?

Enjoy the engagement.  By doing this keeps things light and not all business for the wedding.  Then when it is time for the honeymoon you know you can really play laugh and have fun and not wonder what to talk about since the wedding planning is all over.  One tip I give to engaged couples is at least 1 night a week there should be no talk of the wedding.  Only speak to each other about the future together.  Share your hopes, dreams, and visions that you have as a couple.

 

  1. Have an open mind

This is a new experience for both of you as husband and wife.  Maybe you have traveled together as a couple, however, this is the first time traveling together as a married couple.  This trip may also be your first time together in a new country.  You want your honeymoon to memorable in a good way.  Keeping an open mind about things that may happen unexpectedly will keep things humorous and avoid unhappy feelings and memories.  For example, you may be expecting nice long walks on a beautiful sandy beach.  Laying out on the beach and soaking up the sun.  You arrive and see the beach is filled with seaweed!  Ahhh… you can’t walk on the beach, the smell is yucky.  So what do you do?  Pout?  Get mad?  Blame the resort?  The best thing to do is to keep an open mind.  Play at the pool, walk in the gardens, have a “do it yourself couples” seaweed wrap – haha! Make the most of the situations and you will have more “fun” on your honeymoon and more memories to cherish.

 

  1. Unplug – for real!

No cell phones, no laptops, no tablets.  Change your profile picture to DO NOT DISTURB!  Couples are allowing themselves to be in the present moment with each other while spending time on their honeymoon.  Enjoying each other’s company as well as be completely aware of their surroundings brings relationships to another level.  By having real conversations with each other, meeting new people, reading real books while relaxing at the beach or by the pool the reality of the real world seems to fade away.  You become more relaxed, you feel a freedom that you may have not felt in a long time as an individual and as a person.  This freedom allows you to grow as a person and a couple by being able to allow thoughts and feelings to surfaces with that little ding constantly going off with some sort of notification to distract you.

 

 

  1. Plan a special honeymoon or a vacation gift for each other

The gifts can be simple or extravagant.  The point of the gift is to put thoughtfulness into the gift for each other.  You can forgo the wedding gift and wait until the honeymoon.  I had one bride do a photo shoot of herself in all of her lingerie that she received at her lingerie shower.  She made a little album for her husband and gave it to him on their honeymoon.  He loved it!!!  I’ve had grooms plan surprise candlelight dinners and the butler or server bring a covered dish and when the lid was lifted a beautiful bracelet was on the plate.  There are lots of fun easy things you can do and have set up before you leave for your honeymoon or romantic trip for each other.

 

 

  1. The new tradition-the honeymoon letter

You know the old tradition of saving the top tier of your cake and freezing it for your 1 year anniversary.  Yummy sounding huh?  I suggest that couples add to this tradition.  I suggest couples actually take a little time to themselves on the honeymoon write a letter to each other.  Make fun, make it serious, just make it genuine, make it about your real and authentic feelings.  Seal them up in an envelope and stick it in the freezer with the cake when you get home.  1 year later as you are toasting and enjoying the cake read the letters.   This can be a very special moment and continue to bring you closer.  You can also do this if this is your babymoon… read the letters when the baby turns 1 (in between the diaper changing) and if this is a honeyversary then read them on the next anniversary maybe at your next stop in paradise!

 

  1. Hire a travel professional

Talk with a Travel Professional.  While you have done your research online remember the internet is for looking the travel agent is for booking.  Travel professionals have knowledge and expert advice on destinations and resorts.  Even though you may find something that “looks great online” a travel professional will give you an unbiased opinion on the resorts and destinations.  They are working for you and want to ensure that you get the best value and experience.   Travel professionals will make the planning process so much easier for you and will offer you peace of mind while traveling.

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5 Honeymoon Woe’s and How to Avoid Them

The word Woe means to have distress.  Distress and Honeymoon should not be in the same sentence if you ask me!   Honeymoons are mean for you to enjoy as a couple to get away from the stress of all of the wedding planning you have been doing.   However, 8 out of 10 couples stress over their honeymoon.  From deciding, planning to even being there.

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Here are my top 5 ways to avoid honeymoon woes!

  1. We can’t afford a nice honeymoon                              1572063

Creating a budget for the honeymoon should go in the budget with the wedding.  The honeymoon is part of the wedding. Determine what and who you want to spend your money on. You may find ways to cut cost from the wedding that would be better spend towards you and your fiancé.

Another way to help make honeymoons affordable is by having a honeymoon registry.  This is just like a wedding registry however instead of gifts your guests give you money towards your honeymoon.  You can use the money to pay for the honeymoon or pay for excursions while you are on the honeymoon.

 

  1. We can’t decide where to go                           1678146

He wants the mountains; she wants the beach.  What you do not need is to argue about this, you have enough to worry about with the details of planning a wedding.  There are a couple of ways to narrow it down.  There is a download provided with 25 questions you should ask each other before planning a wedding that you can refer to.

What is really recommended is that you communicate.  Have an open mind when listening to the other person.  Ask questions about why they want to go there, ask what they liked most about where they have already traveled.   Dwell on the topic of traveling together and where you dream of going.  Really spend time on this.

Research and look on the internet and then seek the advice of a travel professional.  Especially one that specializes in honeymoons.  They know this is the start of your happily ever after and they want you to have the best honeymoon every.  They will make sure you are choosing the right destination to fit your needs and wants.

  1. We don’t have time to go on a honeymoon Hourglass.

Only 1 in 4 couples go on their dream honeymoon.   Those 3 couples that do not go on their dream honeymoon live to regret this decision.  Just like scheduling the honeymoon in with the budget schedule the honeymoon when you do have time to enjoy the start of your lives as Mr. and Mrs.   This is an imperative time of your new marital relationship.   Making the time to be alone together rather than jumping back in to the day to day life of work is something that will strengthen the foundation of your relationship.

 

  1. We don’t have time to plan a honeymoon. Business.

No, you don’t.  You are planning a wedding and having fun being engaged.  Planning a honeymoon does involve much time and research.  This is why you hire a travel professional to do the planning for you.  There is no reason you need should have to plan this all on your own.

The only thing you need to find is a travel professional that specializes in honeymoons and that you get along with.  You can do that by asking for referrals, googling honeymoon travel professionals in your wedding area.  Another excellent way to find a travel professional is by looking on the Knot and wedding wire.

 

  1. We are afraid to go somewhere new or out of the country.1672533

There are legitimate concerns for traveling out of the country this day and age.  Living in fear though is not how we grow.  “Borders divide.  Travel Unites.”  A very powerful quote.  Travel unites us as mankind.  Traveling to foreign countries also unite couples even more.  The experience as a couple is even more profound when you travel in love.

Traveling out of the country is exciting.  When you have a travel professional to guide you along the way you will be safer.  You will have someone to call should anything go wrong and they will be there for you.

 

There are many components to honeymoon planning and the woes should not be a part of it!

Where to Get Advice When Planning a Honeymoon

I recently read an article providing tips for planning a honeymoon that caught my attention. The first tip was to not use a travel agent. The advice was based on the writer’s own bad experience and not based on knowledge of the travel industry and how it really works.

Blogs are often opinions and are not always neutral in presenting the facts. However, advice should be fact based. When giving advice, I feel it is irresponsible to base it off of one experience and not research it by talking to other travel agents and couples that used a travel agent.

I have no doubt that the writer had a bad experience with the travel agent that she chose. Her bad experience has led her to her misperception of an entire industry. A bad experience does not make her an expert in planning honeymoons or qualified to advise others!

One travel agent that may not have done her job properly does not mean that all travel agents are bad at booking honeymoons.   I am sure this blogger is an expert in writing since she is an assignment writer for the Huffington Post. The blog she wrote makes me want to say don’t listen to bloggers when planning a trip. However, that would be hypocritical of me to insult all bloggers because one upset me. I follow a few great travel bloggers that know what they are talking about and would not put down an industry of travel professionals. Reading the misperceptions about travel agents can also educate us in correcting those misperceptions.

I have been a professional travel consultant and an expert at planning romantic honeymoons for over 14 years. My husband and I have been on several honeymoons because you can have more than one! I am an experienced authority on romance travel. Here are three tips to help you when it comes time to plan your perfect honeymoon.

1.   Talk About It.
 

Talk about where you want to go. You may have different ideas of the perfect honeymoon. A honeymoon is not a vacation. Your soon to be significant other may not want to lay on the beach for seven days. Ask each other these questions:

  • What is our budget?
  • Do we want relaxation or adventure?
  • What are our expectations of this trip?
  • What are our priorities?
  • What have you always dreamed of doing?

This conversation may continue for a couple of hours or a couple of days. Remember this is how you are going to start your happily ever after.

2. Research. Research. Research.
 

The internet is a powerful tool but be careful with the resources you are trusting.   Remember that bloggers often give opinions that are not based on researched facts; they often base opinions on singular personal experiences. Trip advisor is can be helpful but keep in mind that you are reading reviews from people that you don’t know. One person’s definition of a 5 star resort may not be the same as yours. Ask around and see what others have experienced.   Thoughtfully consider all of your research and your options.

3. Find a Professional Travel Consultant.
 

There are travel consultants that specialize in certain areas or types of travel. Travel professionals have knowledge, experience and resources that the public does not have access to. A good travel consultant is often invited to resorts and is allowed to experience everything the area has to offer.

Here are some suggestions on what to look for when talking to a travel agent.

  • Ask the travel consultant for resources and testimonies.
  • Talk to another couple that has used the consultant services.
  • Ask what professional associations they belong to.
  • Find out if they have visited the resorts they are recommending.
  • What trips do you specialize in? Family, couples, adventure, European?
  • Are you available if we encounter problems such as missing a connecting flight?

Most travel consultants want to make your experience wonderful and better than you imagined. A good travel consultant will take time in getting to know their clients and qualifying them to the best resort that fits the couples wants, needs, priorities and budget.

3 Things You Need To Know About Travel Professionals. Especially me.

3 Things You Need To Know About Travel Professionals. Especially me.

Back in the day (not that I am that old wink wink)  travel agents were basically the only way people were able to book airline tickets, hotels, rental cars, and vacations.  Store front agencies were all over.  People would walk in, sit at the desk and tell the “agent” they want to go to (fill in the blank with your favorite destination).  Then the travel agent would get up and go to the “brochure rack” and  hand them to the client to look at. They would book airline tickets and PRINT them , call up Disney world or a Cruise line to book the reservations.  This was kind of like going to a “record” store and buying a new album.  Wow, have times changed.

 
Fast forward 25 years, the internet is here, there is an APP for everything.  There are people out there that have never heard of a travel agent!  There are people out there that do not realize the benefit and the value of using a travel professional.  I like to call them travel professionals or a travel consultant because we are more than an agent now! I’ll admit while this article pertains to most travel professionals this is truly about my personal passion for my job. Here are 3 things you may have not known about travel professionals.

1- Excitement…yes. They (well I am and most are) are just as excited about this trip as you are.  You are not just data that is being entered into a search engine.  You are a real person and we are so excited to make this dream trip come true for you.  Personally, the favorite part of my job is “when I meet with a client to go over documents before they leave.  I feel like I’m going on the trip too!”-Shannon
 

2 – Connections– I make it a point to create relationships with resort managers, vendors, suppliers and other agents.  I have access to information that is not available to the general public. What does this mean to you?  Better customer service, better knowledge of products and destinations from real people that can be passed along to you to make your trip even better.

3- Knowledge– I went to school for travel and tourism for 14 months.  I learned the ins and outs of the travel industry.  I continue my education by attending conferences, classes, seminars, and webinars on a regular basis.  Travel is a passion and I have knowledge and expertise that will guide you along your travels to make your trip as smooth as possible.

Now you know…. now you can help spread the word and make more people aware of how beneficial a travel professional is.  Share this with someone you know that is engaged, thinking of a destination wedding, wanting to plan a romantic getaway.  I would love to make their DREAM come true!  It’s my purpose and my passion!

Contact Shannon

shannon@paradisevacatinescapes.com | http://www.paradisevacationescapes.com