5 Honeymoon Woe’s and How to Avoid Them

The word Woe means to have distress.  Distress and Honeymoon should not be in the same sentence if you ask me!   Honeymoons are mean for you to enjoy as a couple to get away from the stress of all of the wedding planning you have been doing.   However, 8 out of 10 couples stress over their honeymoon.  From deciding, planning to even being there.

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Here are my top 5 ways to avoid honeymoon woes!

  1. We can’t afford a nice honeymoon                              1572063

Creating a budget for the honeymoon should go in the budget with the wedding.  The honeymoon is part of the wedding. Determine what and who you want to spend your money on. You may find ways to cut cost from the wedding that would be better spend towards you and your fiancé.

Another way to help make honeymoons affordable is by having a honeymoon registry.  This is just like a wedding registry however instead of gifts your guests give you money towards your honeymoon.  You can use the money to pay for the honeymoon or pay for excursions while you are on the honeymoon.

 

  1. We can’t decide where to go                           1678146

He wants the mountains; she wants the beach.  What you do not need is to argue about this, you have enough to worry about with the details of planning a wedding.  There are a couple of ways to narrow it down.  There is a download provided with 25 questions you should ask each other before planning a wedding that you can refer to.

What is really recommended is that you communicate.  Have an open mind when listening to the other person.  Ask questions about why they want to go there, ask what they liked most about where they have already traveled.   Dwell on the topic of traveling together and where you dream of going.  Really spend time on this.

Research and look on the internet and then seek the advice of a travel professional.  Especially one that specializes in honeymoons.  They know this is the start of your happily ever after and they want you to have the best honeymoon every.  They will make sure you are choosing the right destination to fit your needs and wants.

  1. We don’t have time to go on a honeymoon Hourglass.

Only 1 in 4 couples go on their dream honeymoon.   Those 3 couples that do not go on their dream honeymoon live to regret this decision.  Just like scheduling the honeymoon in with the budget schedule the honeymoon when you do have time to enjoy the start of your lives as Mr. and Mrs.   This is an imperative time of your new marital relationship.   Making the time to be alone together rather than jumping back in to the day to day life of work is something that will strengthen the foundation of your relationship.

 

  1. We don’t have time to plan a honeymoon. Business.

No, you don’t.  You are planning a wedding and having fun being engaged.  Planning a honeymoon does involve much time and research.  This is why you hire a travel professional to do the planning for you.  There is no reason you need should have to plan this all on your own.

The only thing you need to find is a travel professional that specializes in honeymoons and that you get along with.  You can do that by asking for referrals, googling honeymoon travel professionals in your wedding area.  Another excellent way to find a travel professional is by looking on the Knot and wedding wire.

 

  1. We are afraid to go somewhere new or out of the country.1672533

There are legitimate concerns for traveling out of the country this day and age.  Living in fear though is not how we grow.  “Borders divide.  Travel Unites.”  A very powerful quote.  Travel unites us as mankind.  Traveling to foreign countries also unite couples even more.  The experience as a couple is even more profound when you travel in love.

Traveling out of the country is exciting.  When you have a travel professional to guide you along the way you will be safer.  You will have someone to call should anything go wrong and they will be there for you.

 

There are many components to honeymoon planning and the woes should not be a part of it!

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LASTING LOVE

4 KEYS TO HAVING A LASTING RELATIONSHIP
(that I learned from my parents)
They met in 1968 when they were 17 and 19.  They lived in different towns 18 miles apart and neither had a car.  There were no cell phones, in fact, phone calls for them had long distance charges.  The relationship from the start was not easy like they can be in today’s standards.  They married, bought a home and had four children.  Through the years, they had job loss, accidents and numerous challenges that most couples do.  2016 they celebrate their 47th wedding anniversary.  They normally celebrate by going out to dinner lately, however, this year they celebrated at home.  Mom came home on their anniversary from having open heart surgery and being hospitalized for one week.  The night before her surgery they fell asleep holding hands.  Dad in the recliner and Mom in the bed.
The love they have is deep it is a true lasting love.  They are each other’s first real love and they will be each other’s eternal love.
The lessons I have learned from them are forever imprinted on my heart and I will treasure forever.  As I see couples plan trips together for the first time or 50th time I always hope and wish for them to have true lasting love.

1.Unconditional love


 

Unconditional – love without conditions.    Seeing the beauty in each other through the flaws is the beauty of a relationship.  No one is perfect.  See your spouse for the love they really are.  They will age, they will change however their heart will stay the same.  Always see them through the eyes of love.  See the love they have in their heart even when they are saying or doing things that may not reflect that.  You know there is love in them.  See that, feel that and connect with that.

2.Work ON your relationship


Take time to work ON your relationship and don’t just be in the relationship.   Spend time alone with each other.  Have date nights, go on a trip with just the 2 of you.  Give yourself permission to be a couple throughout your marriage.  There are marriage programs available through churches, there are relationship experts and books all about this.  Your relationship does not have to be in danger to work on the relationship.  This can be fun and done effortlessly.  You can make it game.  This is something that will add life and longevity to your relationship.

3.Laugh Together


Life is much too short to be unhappy.  We are put on this earth to live in joy.  There are going to be times in your relationships.  There are going to be disagreements.  There are going to be rushed times where you may just see each other briefly see each other in the day.  There are going to be serious conversations.   Allow JOY to be in your relationship.  Have fun.  Do not take things too seriously.  Tell a joke.  Remember the things that would make your partner laugh out loud when you were first together.  Bring up a funny memory.  Make a new funny memory.

4.Kiss



Kissing is an important part of a marriage or partnership.  Kissing according to Sheril Kirshenbaum, Special to CNN: Lip contact involves five of our 12 cranial nerves as we engage all of our senses to learn more about a partner. Electric impulses bounce between the brain, lips, tongue and skin, which can lead to the feeling of being on a natural “high” because of a potent cocktail of chemical messengers involved. Pucker up.  Kiss each other every morning, every time you leave each other for work or for a trip and Kiss each other good night.

Missing Out On a Honeymoon

One of the joys of getting married is knowing you are going on a honeymoon. However, many couples skip the honeymoon for various reasons and later regret it. There are 3 main reasons couples skip their honeymoon.
1. Budget
Couples often time will over budget for the wedding and end up with not enough for the honeymoon. Couples need to prioritize before planning anything involved with the wedding including the honeymoon. The honeymoon is a component of the wedding. Is your priority the wedding, the décor, the cake, the photographer, the band? I could go on, right? Make a list of everything you are going to spend money on for your wedding from the bouquet to the honeymoon. Then go through the list and prioritize the list. This is where you will want to spend your money and budget accordingly.

If funds are tight and you are truly doing the simplest wedding because you love each other and will not take a honeymoon, then fear not, there is a solution to you missing out on your honeymoon as you read further in this article.

2. Time
Time is so valuable and the society we live in today is so rushed and very work oriented. We think we are unable to miss work or miss out on work. Employers and Self-employers need to realize the opposite is true. Valuing our time, prioritizing and working smarter is the key to working. Realizing if you take time off to enjoy life and loved ones we would all be more beneficial in the workforce. Down time allows us to relax and let ideas flow to us. Time is precious and you do not get it back.

There are valid reasons for missing a honeymoon because of time. Maybe one or both of the couple has military obligations, just starting a new job or some other valid reason. Again, keep reading, you will find your solution and hopefully come to realize how precious time with loved ones really is.

3. Fear
Fear stops people from doing so many things. One is travel. Our world is not as safe as it once was and that is a reality that we must not let bind us. Fear of terrorism, fear of diseases, fear of flying, and fear of the unknown keep people from experiencing this beautiful world we live in. People avoid going on honeymoons for these fears and also because the fear of booking something so important can be overwhelming and they just let go and miss out on their honeymoon. For those couples who missed their honeymoon due to fear and have overcome whatever fear it was there is a solution for you too!

You miss it. You missed the honeymoon. You missed the fun, the intimacy and the experience of traveling together as a newlywed. Years later you realize you missed out on an incredible occasion to celebrate your love for each other. You can take what is now called a “Honeyversary©”. A Honeyversary© is for those couples that neglected their honeymoon for whatever reason.

The couples that are 1-10 years in their marriage and realize something is missing. The spark is a little dull maybe. There are kids involved now possibly. The date nights are few and far between. Maybe you have forgotten what it is like to be a couple. The answer is the Honeyversary©. A honeymoon on your anniversary!

You treat a Honeyversary© just as you would a honeymoon. You celebrate your love! You experience new things together. You become a couple again. A Honeyversary© can be as good or even better than marriage therapy!

Maybe you are a couple that DID take a honeymoon however you it was not what you really wanted. You can have a do-over! Maybe you are a couple that has lost their connection then you can take a Honeyversary© also!

Honeyversaries ©are the new trend.

Call your professional travel consultant to plan your Honeyversary©!

Man up 3 Reasons Why The Groom Needs To Plan The Honeymoon

Many couples do not realize that the honeymoon is actually a part of the wedding.  The honeymoon needs to be included in the planning just like the engagement party, rehearsal dinner and all of the components of the wedding.
The entire planning process can be a bit overwhelming.  Brides today have access to so many options for planning.  Their brains are working overtime.  Most have had an image in mind of what they want the wedding to be like since she was three years old.  Today’s bride is checking out every magazine, website, Pinterest, Instagram and anything wedding related in every spare moment.  She has it right there at her fingertips.  Grooms what are you doing?  Are you smiling and nodding?  Are you actively helping with the details?
Traditionally it is the groom’s job to plan the honeymoon.  Somewhere in time, the busy bride has taken over this task. This is time for grooms to man up, take charge and plan the honeymoon.  Plan the best romantic honeymoon of her dreams.
Here are 3 reasons why you should:
1.  YOU CARE
You know that wedding planning is time consuming and along with school and/or work your bride is planning a wedding or talking with a wedding consultant about the planning.  Show her that you care and you want to plan the honeymoon on your own.  You will assure her that you know what you are doing because you care enough to hire a travel consultant to guide you through the process.  You will talk with her and find out her wants, needs and priorities.  This gesture will go a long way in showing what kind of husband you will be.  She may say no.  This is one time where you should insist on taking on this duty.  Let her know you will confide in her throughout the entire process. Show her that you can and will handle the honeymoon.
2. SHE IS STRESSED
A happy bride is a happy groom.  You know she is stressed.  She is trying to please everyone during this entire process.  Manning up and taking this task off her to do list will ease the stress.  Get involved immediately in planning this part.  You initiate the questions about the honeymoon.  Listen to her dreams and pay attention to the details of what she is wanting.  She is going to want to talk about this and by you showing that you care and want to be involved will help relieve her stress.  She will thank you.  She will have more confidence in you as her future husband.
3. BROWNIE POINTS
 Planning an unforgettable dream come true honeymoon will make you the best husband ever!  You know what those brownie points can get you! You know you will be doing something special for her.  Being in love and doing something for the one you love is one of the best feelings in the world.  She will be a happy bride.  She will be able to enjoy the honeymoon even more knowing you planned it.  She will brag to her friends and you will be in the #besthusbandevercategory. This is just the beginning of how you will show your love and devotion to her and your marriage.
Remember, you do not have to do the planning on your own.  Seek the advice of a trusted travel consultant that specializes in honeymoons.  Let them know you are doing the planning.  A professional travel consultant will ask the right questions for both you and your bride.  The travel consultant will guide you and plan the honeymoon of your dreams and make you look like the knight and shining armor that your bride thinks you are.
You got her to say yes to the ring, now get her to say yes to the honeymoon.
To set up your complimentary consultation with me to start planning your celebration get away click here.

3 Things To Know About Your Travel Professional

Back in the day (not that I am that old wink wink)  travel agents were basically the only way people were able to book airline tickets, hotels, rental cars, and vacations.  Storefront agencies were all over.  People would walk in, sit at the desk and tell the “agent” they want to go to (fill in the blank with your favorite destination).  Then the travel agent would get up and go to the “brochure rack” and  hand them to the client to look at. They would book airline tickets and PRINT them , call up Disney world or a Cruise line to book the reservations.  This was kind of like going to a “record” store and buying a new album.  Wow, have times changed.
Fast forward 25 years, the internet is here, there is an APP for everything.  There are people out there that have never heard of a travel agent!  There are people out there that do not realize the benefit and the value of using a travel professional.  I like to call them travel professionals or a travel consultant because we are more than an agent now! I’ll admit while this article pertains to most travel professionals this is truly about my personal passion for my job. Here are 3 things you may have not known about travel professionals.

1- Excitement...YES! They (well, I am and most are) are just as excited about this trip as you are.  You are not just data that is being entered into a search engine.  You are a real person and we are so excited to make this dream trip come true for you.  Personally, the favorite part of my job is “when I meet with a client to go over documents before they leave.  I feel like I’m going on the trip too!”-Shannon

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No Regrets Guide To A Dazzling Honeymoon

No Regrets Guide To A Dazzling Honeymoon

No Regrets Guide To A Dazzling Honeymoon
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The engagement party was fun.  The bridal shower was endearing.  The bachelorette and bachelor party were epic!  The bridal shower was endearing.  The rehearsal dinner was memorable and the wedding was a dream come true.  Now it is time for the Dazzling Honeymoon you have both been looking forward to!
For a no regrets and a dazzling honeymoon take note to these simple steps:
1-     Leave at least 2 days after the wedding.
 
 
Even if you have a day-time wedding you will be physically and emotionally drained from the wedding and all of the events that led up to the wedding.   Allowing you and your new spouse a day of rest before getting on a plane will
insure you arrive at your honeymoon destination rested and recharged for Honeymoon “festivities”.
2-     Have an open mind.
A hand writing Open Your Mind on a blackboard. A concept for having an open mind to new ideas,experiences and opportunity in our careers, education and personal lives 
This is a new experience for both of you as husband and wife.  Maybe you have travelled together as a couple,
however this is the first time traveling together as a married couple.  This trip may also be your first time together in a new country.  You want your honeymoon to memorable in a good way.  Keeping an open mind about things that may happen unexpectedly will keep things humorous and avoid unhappy feelings and memories.  For
example you may be expecting nice long walks on a beautiful sandy beach.  Laying out on the beach and soaking up the sun.  You arrive and see the beach is filled with seaweed!  Ahhh… you can’t walk on the beach, the smell is yucky.  So what do you do?  Pout?  Get mad?  Blame the resort?  The best thing to do is to keep an open mind.  Play at the pool, walk in the gardens, have a “do it yourself couples” seaweed wrap – haha! Make the most of the situations and you will have more “fun” on your honeymoon and more memories to cherish.
3-     Splurge – It is YOUR honeymoon. 
Many couples sink thousands of dollars into the wedding.  There are things that you think are important and a priority for the wedding and then hindsight you don’t remember those little things you spent the money on.  Will it really matter if you spent more money on a live band vs a DJ?  You will still have had your first dance.  Will it matter that you had an ice carving at the reception?  Gifts for the guests that they will aimlessly throw away after the party? Overdoing table décor when simple is sometimes just as nice.  The money spent on this things could be put into the honeymoon for you and your spouse to enjoy and cherish.  Make sure when you are prioritizing the wedding that you include the honeymoon.
Working with a travel professional will help you with planning and guide you to make sure you have no regrets!
The most important thing you do to make your honeymoon dazzle and have no regrets is to GO on a honeymoon and make the most of your time together in a new place!  Let the petty things that can and will happen when you travel go.
Experience new things, taste new foods, laugh and have lots of honeymoon sex!
To set up your complimentary consultation with me to start planning your Dazzling Honeymoon or romantic get away click here.
Negril, Jamaica Zimbali Retreat- The Food

Negril, Jamaica Zimbali Retreat- The Food

Negril, Jamaica Zimbali Retreat – The Food Tour (part 3)

After our ride and our walk around the farm, we made our way to the kitchen.  This is where we met Habba, our chef for the lunch food tour.  My husband and I are “foodies”.  We love to cook, entertain and eat.  We LOVE dining experiences.  Dining is not just about the food it is about the prepping, the cooking, the conversations and the enjoyment of consuming the meal.  This experience was off to a great start.

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Habba, chef extraordinaire greeted us with his charm and charisma.  Right away he asked about any food allergies.   Making sure our wellbeing and health were not compromised.   He invited us to sit, have a glass a wine and explained what was going to be happening over the course of the meal.  The kitchen is set up with a rustic feel with modern appliances and technologies.  There is even a flat screen tv that films the chef from behind so you can see how he is preparing everything at all angles.

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My husband is an amazing amateur chef so much so that many times I would rather eat at home than eat out at what some consider a nice restaurant.  Being on the other side of the stove with a creative chef while watching Habba in action is very entertaining.

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Our first course was a beautiful presentation of cooked plantains, green onions and black beans all set in an array of a flower.  As delicious as it is beautiful!

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Habba explains his methods of preparations as he prepares everything.  He tells of his history growing up in Jamaica and England.  He shares his passion of cooking.  Habba is so creative with his foods.  He figures out creative ways to make his food healthy and delicious.
The second course is an “untraditional” Jamaican meat patty.  We are huge fans of this popular dish.  Habba likes to make sure that his meals are not only organic but also healthy and delicious.  This meat patty was made with a homemade pie crust.  Habba made his pie crust from organic ingredients.  The “meat” was not meat.  The meat was made of lentils.  These lentils were cooked to perfection with the perfect texture and taste.  The taste and texture of meat, perfectly disguised to fool experienced pallets.   I am one that does not eat beans or lentils (ever)!  I despise the texture of them.  I was very grateful that Habba did not reveal his secret until I was almost half way through the tastiest meat patty I had ever eaten.

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The salad.  Veggies fresh and crisp.  Tossed lightly in oil and vinegar with herbs.  A refreshing taste of freshness.

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The main course we were given a choice of chicken, shrimp or vegan.  I chose chicken and Rich chose the shrimp.   Habba prepared both dishes with sides of vegetables cooked down in coconut milk. He showed us his process of making his own coconut milk.  The shrimp was filled with flavor and a little bit of a spicy kick to it.  The chicken was tender enough to cut with a fork and flavored with a delicious topping.  All of the sides were equally tasty.

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Oh and dessert.  We will never forget the dessert.   A yummy chocolate cake.  Chocolate is always yummy, right?  Well, this chocolate cake was just that and more.  Yumminess drizzled with honey. Accompanied by a mango salsa. Habba asked us if we could taste his “secret” ingredient.  We took a few bites.  Richard made a couple of guesses. Wrong guesses.  His secret ingredient was BLACK BEANS.  More beans that I was loving.

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This cake was so rich in taste.  I wish you could taste it.  You can if you see Habba at Zimbali retreat.

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After the lunch, I got a tour of the rooms of the resort.  Each room is nicely decorated with all of the comforts of home, clean bathroom, coffee pots and a breezy balcony with a nice hammock. Zimbali retreat is a great getaway if you are looking for something different.  If you are looking for an experience of real Jamaican culture, beauty, and taste.  This place has other interesting tours and activities that you can do including visiting the Rastafarian.   I will be returning personally.  For a night of romance, tranquility and peace.

For more information about booking your romantic trip to Zimbali or any other destination contact Shannon at 225-303-2240

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