7 Secrets To A Sizzlin Honeymoon

7 Secrets To A Sizzlin Honeymoon

7 SECRETS

  1. Do Not leave the very next day after your wedding.

This is for those of you that are planning a honeymoon.  Most couples are so excited to go they want to leave the very next day on the first flight out.  This is usually a 6am flight.  This means you have to be at the airport for 4am.  This means waking up around 3am.  You get the picture …. You have a late night and then a very very early morning. I know how excited couples are to go as soon as possible but traveling can be exhausting.  You do not want to arrive at your paradise completely drained.  And if there are unexpected delays the day gets even longer and you get even more tired and cranky.   So relax.  Spend the first night at a hotel in a nearby city.  Sleep in … order room service and leave the following day.  You’ll be rested and in a much better mood to travel.  You’ll arrive at your destination refreshed and ready for any and all honeymoon festivities.

 

  1. Stay focused on the marriage and not the wedding.

The moment the ring is on the finger the real planning starts.  The bride puts in endless hours of shopping, attending bridal shows, planning, discussing, researching, interviewing, cake sampling, phone calls, pintresting (is that a word?), Facebooking (another new word for the urban dictionary).  Some young ladies even start a dieting and working out just so everything will be just perfect for the wedding and the reception after.  So hours upon hours, day after day, month after month the time is filled with the planning of the wedding.  The day arrives, anticipation has built up, energy is building to that moment.  The moment when she walks down the aisle and he sees her.  They say “I do”.   They kiss.  The celebration starts with family and friends for a couple of hours after.  Then the wedding is over.

According to Bride magazine, most engagements and the planning of the wedding last for 18 months.  That is a considerable amount of time spent in planning a wedding.  Remember this is also a time to focus on each other and the upcoming marriage, not the upcoming wedding.  The wedding is one day.  The marriage is forever, right?

Enjoy the engagement.  By doing this keeps things light and not all business for the wedding.  Then when it is time for the honeymoon you know you can really play laugh and have fun and not wonder what to talk about since the wedding planning is all over.  One tip I give to engaged couples is at least 1 night a week there should be no talk of the wedding.  Only speak to each other about the future together.  Share your hopes, dreams, and visions that you have as a couple.

 

  1. Have an open mind

This is a new experience for both of you as husband and wife.  Maybe you have traveled together as a couple, however, this is the first time traveling together as a married couple.  This trip may also be your first time together in a new country.  You want your honeymoon to memorable in a good way.  Keeping an open mind about things that may happen unexpectedly will keep things humorous and avoid unhappy feelings and memories.  For example, you may be expecting nice long walks on a beautiful sandy beach.  Laying out on the beach and soaking up the sun.  You arrive and see the beach is filled with seaweed!  Ahhh… you can’t walk on the beach, the smell is yucky.  So what do you do?  Pout?  Get mad?  Blame the resort?  The best thing to do is to keep an open mind.  Play at the pool, walk in the gardens, have a “do it yourself couples” seaweed wrap – haha! Make the most of the situations and you will have more “fun” on your honeymoon and more memories to cherish.

 

  1. Unplug – for real!

No cell phones, no laptops, no tablets.  Change your profile picture to DO NOT DISTURB!  Couples are allowing themselves to be in the present moment with each other while spending time on their honeymoon.  Enjoying each other’s company as well as be completely aware of their surroundings brings relationships to another level.  By having real conversations with each other, meeting new people, reading real books while relaxing at the beach or by the pool the reality of the real world seems to fade away.  You become more relaxed, you feel a freedom that you may have not felt in a long time as an individual and as a person.  This freedom allows you to grow as a person and a couple by being able to allow thoughts and feelings to surfaces with that little ding constantly going off with some sort of notification to distract you.

 

 

  1. Plan a special honeymoon or a vacation gift for each other

The gifts can be simple or extravagant.  The point of the gift is to put thoughtfulness into the gift for each other.  You can forgo the wedding gift and wait until the honeymoon.  I had one bride do a photo shoot of herself in all of her lingerie that she received at her lingerie shower.  She made a little album for her husband and gave it to him on their honeymoon.  He loved it!!!  I’ve had grooms plan surprise candlelight dinners and the butler or server bring a covered dish and when the lid was lifted a beautiful bracelet was on the plate.  There are lots of fun easy things you can do and have set up before you leave for your honeymoon or romantic trip for each other.

 

 

  1. The new tradition-the honeymoon letter

You know the old tradition of saving the top tier of your cake and freezing it for your 1 year anniversary.  Yummy sounding huh?  I suggest that couples add to this tradition.  I suggest couples actually take a little time to themselves on the honeymoon write a letter to each other.  Make fun, make it serious, just make it genuine, make it about your real and authentic feelings.  Seal them up in an envelope and stick it in the freezer with the cake when you get home.  1 year later as you are toasting and enjoying the cake read the letters.   This can be a very special moment and continue to bring you closer.  You can also do this if this is your babymoon… read the letters when the baby turns 1 (in between the diaper changing) and if this is a honeyversary then read them on the next anniversary maybe at your next stop in paradise!

 

  1. Hire a travel professional

Talk with a Travel Professional.  While you have done your research online remember the internet is for looking the travel agent is for booking.  Travel professionals have knowledge and expert advice on destinations and resorts.  Even though you may find something that “looks great online” a travel professional will give you an unbiased opinion on the resorts and destinations.  They are working for you and want to ensure that you get the best value and experience.   Travel professionals will make the planning process so much easier for you and will offer you peace of mind while traveling.

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26 Ways To Improve Your Honeymoon

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1. Hire travel professional to plan it

2. Upgrade your room- you only honeymoon once go for the best

3. Buy a honeymoon gift for your fiancé

4. Plan a couple’s massage

5. Do one excursion together that you have never done before (ex. Zipline, skydiving)

6. Write a hand-written love letter to each other at the end and read on the plane ride home

7. Go off the grid. Lock your phones in the in-room safe!

8. Schedule a private driver or limo to bring you to and from the resort

9. Choose the destination that is right for you and your fiancé, not the destination your BFF went to or your co-worker said you should go to.

10. Plan a scavenger hunt for the trip

11. Take turns choosing one activity per day.

12. Invite another couple that you meet for drinks

13. Do not leave the day after your wedding

14. Have one day with no plans at all

15. Order room service

16. Plan a surprise

17. Arrange to have the house cleaned while you are away

18. Start a honeymoon registry/fund

19. Arrive home one full day before you return to work

20. Make a playlist ahead of time

21. Bring a camera (not your phone)

22. Be romantic

23. Play a board game (some hotels and resorts keep them around for rainy days)

24. Read a book to each other

25. Sexy lingerie

26. Have an honest discussion with each other about honeymoon expectations

For more information about having an amazing honeymoon planned by THE honeymoon expert click here for a complimentary consultation

How Engaged Are You?

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Are you engaged?

I do not mean did you just get a diamond ring given to you by your significant other while they were down on one knee.  I mean are you really engaged with the person that you love?

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When couples first get engaged there is such an exhilarating and emotional state of the relationship.  There are butterflies of excitement, there are new conversations, new thoughts and new feelings that all come up once a couple becomes engaged to be married.   You spend time together in a different way.  You know you are going to be spending the rest of your life with this person.  You get closer, ask deeper questions, find out even more about each other, you engage with each other on a more personal level.

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What level of engagement are you at with your fiancé?  Are you at a higher level of presence in your relationship like when you first got engaged?  Will you continue to stay at this higher level of engagement during your time together?

A higher level of engagement is when you are focusing on your fiancé and more giving of yourself to your fiancé.  A higher level of engagement is when you are immersed in your relationship and the planning of your marriage.  You are mindful and fully aware that your relationship is a priority.

You never become “disengaged” or Unengaged (unless you break up) as a couple.  The engagement lasts if the two of you are together as a couple, forever.  Yes, you move on to becoming married, but you stay engaged as a couple.  It is your choice as to which level of engagement your relationship will be.  It is your choice each day in your relationship.  Yes, the level will fluctuate over the years and during time.   The more aware and engaged you are as a couple the greater your bond will be.

If you are newly engaged, are you focusing on the building of your relationship just as much as the planning of the wedding?

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How engaged are you or will you be when your 1 year,5 years, or 10 year to 60-year anniversary comes around?  Will you still be engaged at the level of love, excitement, joy that you are the day the ring is placed on your finger?  Will it be more or will it be less?  Will you still have the butterflies?  Butterflies or the excitement for your relationship and for the other person will stay and will strengthen over time if you stay engaged at this higher level on a regular basis with each other.

Be engaging in the moments you spend together.  Engage in meaningful conversations with each other.  Engage in the things that you want meaning from in your relationship. Engage with intent, energy, excitement and enthusiasm.  Be fully engaged with your spouse and they will more than likely reciprocate.    We all get busy in our day-to-day routines.  We lose the zest of our relationships by getting caught up in ourselves, our business, our friends, our families and our children.  Put the cell phone and the tablets way!  Take date nights as often as you can.  Take a romantic trip together at least once a year.  Dance in the kitchen together while dinner is cooking.  Kiss each other as often as possible.  Hold hands.  Smile at each other.  Stay playful.

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Stay engaged to keep your relationship going at a high level and to stay engaged forever.

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Contact Shannon, the romance travel expert at Paradise Vacation Escapes to plan a honeymoon or trip for you and your loved one so that you can stay engaged with each other.  Shannon’s email is Shannon@paradisevacationescapes.com, phone is 225-303-2240.

Top 3 2017 Romance Travel Trends

Our world has gotten smaller.  Thanks to technology we can get to places faster, easier and much more comfortable than we did 20 years ago.  Vacations to the islands and Europe are still on the list of trendy vacations, however, what is popular in the up-to-date travel trends, especially for romance travel are more extended and immersed vacations.  Couples are looking for some place different to experience.  Thailand, Australia, and Dubai are not as exotic as they once used to be.  Honeymooners have discovered that they may want to invest more in their travel together than the wedding budget so places like Bali and Tahiti are falling in with the new trends as well as what is listed below.

Wonderful new trends are happening to give couples, even more, ways to experience life and love together.  I have 3 of 2017 top Romance travel trends and I am excited to share with you so you can start planning a new adventure for a honeymoon, anniversary or a romantic escape for this year.

 

  1. Take A Safari
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Sunrises and sunset skies are magnificent in the Africa.  Gone are the days of roughing it on a safari now you can stay in luxury camps or an elegant villa.  Enjoy private guides for two.  Seclusion at its finest all among nature as you have never seen it.  Dining is gourmet and exquisite cuisine and fine wines are of abundance in Africa.

  1. Food Romancepastamaking

The love for food for some is almost equal to the love for each other in some cases.  Enjoy a vacation completely centered around gourmet exclusive adventures.  Spend the day in the home of a kitchen in Italy learning to cook authentic Italian cuisine from a real Italian native.   Spend the evening on a wine tour in Napa.  Many hotels now around the country offer cooking classes.  Food is a great way to share your passion and love with each other.

 

  1. Cruising in Eleganceelegantdiningcouplerivercruise

River cruising is much more different than ocean cruising.  The ships are smaller, the staff is trained to a higher level of service.  River cruises are a more luxurious way to cruise together as a couple in a much more intimate setting.  Guests occupancy vary from 100- 200 passengers. The cabins are larger and much more comfortable. While river cruising has normally been geared toward retired couples and baby boomers, the newer generations (gen Xers and millennials) are drawn to the unique port of calls, the excursions (that are mostly included in the price), the fine dining options, and wine being included on the sailings.

 

Appealing?  Want to plan a romantic different trip for 2017?  I would love to make this happen for you.  Contact me via email shannontravel2@gmail.com, call me at 225-303-2240 so we can schedule a time to meet over coffee or a glass of wine to talk about you traveling together in love 2017.

An Interview with Santa Claus

meandsantaI love talking with couples that have been together for a long time to see what their magic is for a long relationship.  I called in a favor with my friend Santa Claus.  I was recently able to get in touch with him while he was on a break from making toys and checking lists to ask him about romance travel and so much more.

 

Here is part 1 of my 3-part interview with Santa Claus:

 

Shannon:  Santa, how long have you and Mrs. Claus been married?

Santa:  I must admit, too many years for me to remember.  We’ve been around a very long time and being together is always happy so I have lost track of time.  I’m sure she could tell the exact number of years, days, hours and minutes.  To me when you are in love, time does not matter.

 

Shannon:  What do you think the secret to happy marriage is?

Santa: (rubbing his white beard) That is a difficult question and one that I am often asked.  I must say that I think the secret is to look at your spouse from the heart when things are getting tough.  Believe in your spouse, honor them and cherish them.  Remember over time that people change, allow them to change, be accepting and always be loving.  When things get tough remember why you fell in love, go back to the basics. Hold their hand, write a short little love note, take a walk, reminisce on the happy times together.  Find ways to spend quality time together.  Kiss and laugh often!  Ho Ho Ho!

 

Shannon:  Where did you and Mrs. Claus go on your honeymoon?

Santa: (chuckles) Well, I can tell you we were not lucky enough to go to one of those fancy over the water bungalows in Bora Bora or a nice all-inclusive resort down in the Caribbean. No, they didn’t have those fancy resorts around when we took our honeymoon.  I’ll tell you what we did do.  We had a nice simple wedding and then we did honeymoon.  We did take the sleigh and had the reindeers drop us off on a nice little tropical island.  We definitely wanted to go somewhere that was warm.  We had a private villa, staff and the ocean all to ourselves for an entire week.  Oh, we had the time of our lives.  We swam, napped in the afternoons, ate, drank and were merry! It was a very special time because we knew it was the first few days of our marriage.  We knew we would be together forever and forever is a long time for the Claus’s (hohoho).  Time away after our wedding was very important and it was timely because it was right before we had to get back to making toys!  So, I could return to work relaxed and ready.

 

Shannon:  What is your definition of romance?

Santa: (peering over his glasses) I can tell you what it is not first.  Romance is not a fairytale story.  I know, they make so many movies about love and romance and they lived happily ever after.  Well, I have rose colored glasses but I know its not all about that.  I know we fight and we disappoint each other’s and ourselves sometimes.  So while those movies and books can make you swoon, that is for entertainment.  Real romance is real love.  Romance is keeping your love for each other alive on a daily basis.  Kissing each other in the morning, doing one little special thing for the other one just because.  Romance is thoughtfulness in not just big ways but small ways too.  Romance is pure love and not just with each other but showing love to all those around us.  Being love helps you to be in love.  Romance is excitement for each other, romance is laughter.  Romance is wanting nothing but the best for the one that you love.  Yes, yes,(nodding) that is what romance means to me.

 

 

Stay tuned for part 2, next week….as Santa (the real world traveler) gives us his insight on his top 3 romantic destinations!

 

4 Ways You Know Its Engagement Season

From Thanksgiving day until February 15th the season is bestowed upon us.  The beautiful, loving time of the year when couples get engaged. 43% of engagements happen during this time.  The most popular days are Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Years Day and Valentine’s Day.

If you are reading this and are already engaged or newly married you may or may not be guilty of any of the following.

1.  You have a standing weekly appointment for a manicure.
You want to be sure your hand is not only bling ready but also ready to take pictures of when the ring is placed!

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2.  You have Facebook envy.
 Another friend just changed her status to engaged.  You are happy for her, really. Sigh. Soon, very soon, you can change your status. 
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3. You keep a bottle champagne chilled at all times.
You love champagne. And Because you never know when there is a reason to celebrate!
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4. You’ve already bought this mug.
You know you will have coffee poured in it and on social media the very next morning!

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In all seriousness, you know when the time is right the proposal will happen.  Let it happen naturally.  Be open and avoid spoiling the surprise for him and for YOU!

Happy Engagement Season!

 

3 Reasons Why Traveling Together is Beneficial For Your Relationship

3 Reasons Why Traveling Together is Beneficial For Your Relationship

1678160Did you know, per the U.S. Travel Association Almost two-thirds of couples surveyed found that a vacation is more likely to spark romance in their relationship than a gift.

 

Seventy-two percent of the 1,100 American adults surveyed said that travelling inspires their romance.

 

More than three-quarters – 77 percent – of those who travel as couples reported that they have a good sex life.

As couples, we tend to get complacent in our daily routines.  We get comfortable in how we see ourselves and each other.  We unknowingly start taking our partner for granted.  This is not necessarily done in a bad way. We do this subconsciously, just as we take for granted the beautiful blue sky outside.  After seeing something repeatedly people tend to this with each other as well.   Therefore, traveling together as a couple does serve your relationship intimately if you are newly married or married for 60 years.

Here are 3 reasons why traveling together is beneficial for your relationship.

  1. Creates a Newness

When you travel to place or even a new resort in a familiar destination you create an energy of excitement.  People get excited when they are in a new setting and see new, beautiful things.  That enthusiasm is contagious and you want to share the pleasure with each other.

Being in a new destination, seeing new places of interest, trying new foods, part taking in new adventures and doing this together as a couple helps couples to see each other in a new way.  Or maybe an old way?  The old way being like when you first met and had those butterflies.  New places create an environment that lets us relax and enjoy the moment.

  1. Allows you to focus

Traveling away from home, work, family, friends, kids and any other added distractions that take you away from focusing on each other will permit you to fully focus on your partner.  Disruptions are very limited.  If you allow yourself to put away your cell phone, then the attention is even better.  With greater focus comes, even more, relationship growth without even having to put forth a lot of effort.  The growth happens organically because you are not distracted.

  1. Brings back memories

Being in a new place on a vacation or a honeymoon allows you to start relaxing.  Relaxing and just being together as a couple will create new memories, however, it will also allow you to cherish the memories you have already created.  Even as far back to your first kiss.

 

Live in the moment on the trip, cherish your past and celebrate your future!